As we delve into the Word of God today, we look at this AMAZING Woman for the 2nd week.  Every time I read this passage, Proverbs 31:10-31 it is evident that there are so many short comings in my life and she is a constant challenge to me.

Proverbs 31:11-12 (New International Version)

¹¹ Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

¹² She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

Her husband has full confidence in her.  He knows what an amazing woman she is and he does not feel inferior to her.

She treats her man right,  and I am pretty sure he feels motivated to keep his position of status, in her heart, as he goes about his business.  It is easy, when we get frustrated to say something, that later we regret.  Our hubbies need to know we aren’t talking bad about them with others.  If you need to make things right do it, turn the page. That is all part of the package that he has confidence in her.  This is the foundation of our family.  The children are the blocks that go on top of that foundation and if it crumbles, they will too.  The way you and your spouse ARGUE (and everyone does) is a lesson to your children.  It is all in HOW you do it.  Those kiddos  are taking mental notes and learning how to deal with situations.   If your wish for them is a healthy, stable relationship with their spouse then they need to see that day in and day out as they grow up.

This couple had a pretty good relationship.  He has FULL confidence in her. She is not a slave, they are partners.  She has a TO DO list and HE DOES too.  I would image that they have pretty good communication about all the things that each of them needs to get done or needs help with, in order to get all the tasks accomplished.  She has skills that he does not have, that God did not give to him and she brings something to their home that he can not bring.  So how does he handle that-does he get mad and hate her for being something that he is not or does he value those qualities and respect and appreciate all she can bring to their home?  A wise man will value her.  No one can be everything.  Not even this gal possessed every quality available to mankind.

Our husbands are unique individuals, created and loved by their heavenly father before their mothers even knew that they were pregnant.  They are created differently than us, they think differently than we do.  It does not make their thinking better but it doesn’t mean we are always right either.  Our men need to feel loved, adored and respected by us.  Marriage takes work and prayer.  I always cringe when I hear people say “it’s 50/50”.  It isn’t 50/50 it needs to be 100/100.

If I am not giving 100 percent towards my marriage, then what is the other 50 percent going towards?

The best advice I received at one of my baby showers when I was pregnant with G1, was to make sure we kept working at out marriage during the KIDDO years.

You don’t want your kids to all be gone from home and all of a sudden realize, we have been so busy with our kids and getting them to all their events and keeping up with everything and you look at your spouse and wonder- WHO ARE YOU and WHAT did we have in common a long time ago.

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. You want all the days of your life to be wonderful.  Do you make his heart SMILE and does he make your HEART SMILE or is there some work to be done ?

His heart has FULL CONFIDENCE in her–he doesn’t worry that she will be flirting with other guys. It is amazing that the divorce rate has gone down in this economy crunch that we are in.  I am sure the stress levels are high in many families but the real estate market and overall economy have caused many families to stick it out.  They can’t sell and divide anything up.  It will be interesting to see if this will cause them to find a way to work things out and pull together or if, once the economy picks up the divorce rate climbs, just because it finally makes “economic sense” to them, to sell their properties and move on.

Let me just say–if you are struggling in your marriage and you are thinking that the only solution to this problem is a divorce–let me offer you a challenge.  You loved this person at one time, pray that both of your hearts will heal, sit down together and watch your wedding video and then pray and ask God to help you to fall in love with your spouse again.  He CAN heal the wounds. If you have a spouse who is unfaithful, pray for that spouse.  I am sure it is hard to want to pray for them but pray, pray that God will wake them up out of a deep sleep every single night and think about you and only you.

Pray for God to take that small little spark and make it a flame.  Pray for God to make them so uncomfortable in their sin that they can not stand it.  The God who can move a mountain can move a heart of stone.  Do kind things for your spouse, turn the other cheek.  A good deed can soften the heart.  Just because you do a good deed doesn’t necessarily mean you will get that back right away.  Depending on how deep those wounds are, it may take awhile but allow God to helo those seeds of kindness work their way deep down and begin to grow.

A piece of fruit doesn’t grow over night and once it has had the perfect amount of time to grow and develop, it is so sweet but even the blossom smells so good.  It takes a blossom to get the fruit.

My kids were watching our wedding video the other day and although I am not thinking of divorcing Prince Charming and I love him with all my heart, it was amazing seeing it and hearing things we said to each other.  It has been a long time since we had sat down to watch it. Prince Charming wasn’t home that day, so he still hasn’t seen it for awhile but  it gave all new meaning to the things we said to each other that day.  I had surprised him and had pre-recorded a solo that was part of our wedding ceremony.  Seeing the tears in his eyes and his sweet comments (the videographer had a mic on him so we can hear all the things we are saying to each other through the wedding –that the audience couldn’t hear) made me fall more in love with him–all over again.

This man also knows that he can trust her to take care of business. They have a pretty good system in place because she is one busy gal, without all the modern conveniences.  We will cover other aspects of their life as we go through each verse but it sounds like she has some hired help around the house.  Part of doing what needs to be done may include some modern advancements or outside help from time to time.  That does not make you less of a woman.  If God has blessed you with the resources to hire some help and it makes life move at a smoother pace and your husband is on board with it then get some help.