Cheri Peoples

Blog Etiquette

by CHERI on March 26, 2010

One of my Blog Friends — Holly from 504 Main did a post on Blog Etiquette that I thought I would share with you. I know many of you are new and maybe didn’t know there was such a thing as blog etiquette so I am sharing Holly’s insight. Let me just say, I am far from perfect, I get behind but I try to get back to as many of you as I can. I get e-mails all the time from people, just shocked I got back to them.  If I don’t get over to your blog to sign up and follow you–it could be that you slipped through the cracks and if so I am SOOOO sorry– I get an automatic response in e-mail, when someone signs up, that I have a new follower. SOMETIMES the problem is this: the person doesn’t have links set up and they don’t have their account set up so I can respond by e-mail, so they come up as a Non-Reply Comment. (If you click on those links, it will show you how to fix those things.) Add to it-they don’t leave me a message so I can not click to go over–ugh. It makes me feel so bad.   I have lots of blog tips for fixing blog issues that you may not even know is a problem-go down under my buttons, on the Right panel, and click on Categories and go down to Blog Tips and Tutorials. I try to follow everyone who follows me. I do get behind sometimes, I have four kids to feed and lot of laundry, I home school, yadda yadda, yadda and sometimes I just have to prioritize and decide what I can get done.  Sometimes I get an e-mail from someone and they have sent an e-mail previously that I never received–if I haven’t been by, I do want to come by.   I try to answer questions first, take care of things that have to be addressed immediately, get to new visitors, answer my loyal gals who come by daily–sometimes I will pass them up because I have so much to do but they know I will get to them the next day. ( I love getting to know you gals–I am dead serious on this.) I have posts, projects and lots of blogs to visit. I am still going through my old follower list trying to contact everyone to let them know I have moved. I am always working on new ideas. BUSY is my middle name but I love it, it is better than sitting still or going backwards. SERIOUSLY girls-If I have not been by please e-mail me–TOOT YOUR OWN HORN– so I can come by and be sure to leave me your blog address–just in case. AND IF YOU HAVE YOUR BLOG BLOCKED it is IMPOSSIBLE to sign up–please be sure to change that so I can sign up–yep there’s a blog tip for that too. I am trying to grab blog buttons from everyone as well, if I don’t have yours let me know–
If you do not have a blog button and would like me to make one for you, I will do so for $7–the best deal out there. I can bill you through Paypal and I can accept Credit and Debit cards.

Here is Miss Holly’s post:
Now, let’s cause some controversy…nah just kidding, but I thought it is time to touch on a post I have had in the edit section since December…blogging etiquette. I am not the first to address the situation. I am not going to preach or rant {I could} or make you believe that I have it totally right, but I totally believe in bloggy etiquette, and do my best to adhere to it and what I think is good bloggy etiquette.

I consider myself to still be a newbie, but some basic principles were pretty apparent early on, especially as I visited more blogs and comments and all I ever got was {crickets chirping}. So I quit visiting…why should I participate when it seems no one cares? To me that is what blogging is {partly} about. OK, then I started again, I visited a few big bloggers and I actually received responses…different kinds…some would send an email back, some would comment on my post, some would do both. I was thrilled.

I still have blog nerves when I visits “big” blogs. Recently I visited It’s So Very Cheri. I was nervous {yes, I am a dork!}…I had seen Cheri’s blog around since before I began blogging, I had heard about her linky parties and seen her “I’ve been featured at…” buttons around. I figured she would never respond to me. Man oh man was I wrong. Cheri is a perfect example of how bloggers should treat one another. She just recently moved to WordPress…so go visit her if you have not already and follow along, you will not be disappointed with her creativity and inspirations.

This all leads me to my oh-so-scientific formula of
MY Blogiquette Do’s:{I cannot say that I have not missed a blogger here or there along they way but it was not on purpose…I just messed up – it happens…ask my kids.}
Comments1. The number one way I respond to comments is by visiting your blog and commenting. HOWEVER if your blog is not linked to your profile and you do not leave the URL in the comment, I cannot…I have had a handful of these instances recently and I feel bad…and the emails are also “No-Reply @ Blogger,” so there is no way to contact anyone. If you need to know how to link your email, go to your dashboard, click on edit profile, go down to the box that says “Show my email address.” Don’t want to plug up you regular inbox?…Get a free email {it is easy} and add it further down on that same page where it says “Email Address.”2. If you ask me a question, I will answer it in an email or at your blog {if you are a no-reply @ email person}.3. I try to leave a decent comment. I won’t lie…I have visited some blogs and I am at a loss, but I think of something beyond “great post.” Unless of course, your comment to me was “Nice post.” You may just get that back. Warning I use “love” and “fabulous” a lot but only if I mean it!4. Personally, I think it is rude to not respond at all to someone who visits and takes the time to comment. This happens to me a lot and it is my pet peeve. So, I strive to respond to comments.
Linky’s and Blog Hops1. If I join a Blog Hop/Blog Party {via a linky} I will always follow the person whose blog I am joining the party at {it only seems fair}. I will leave a comment as well {I have slipped up there a time or two when it has been late at night}. 2. If I join in someone’s giveaway, I will follow too…most require this, but even if they don’t, it only seems fair.
3. I have never hosted a linky, so I will remain silent about the host/hostess job until I do.
Following 1. As far as following goes…if you follow me, I will generally follow you {unless you are weird…sorry but I do have some blocked followers}…if you leave a comment and let me know!
2. Do I unfollow people?…I will be honest, yes I have – just a handful…but for very good reasons…they have become offensive or just have plain have tacky behavior. Occasionally an attack of {millions and millions of} crickets have caused this, but only if there is another reason as well.
3. I do participate in Friday Follow/Making Friends/Etc. parties and follow the rules…if you follow me, I follow you. Am I going to be able to visit all of these blogs…no, are they going to always be able to visit me, no…but I will not unfollow for that reason.
4. EDIT***I follow different blogs for different reasons, and I am sure different people follow me for different reasons. I touch on cooking, crafting, creative writing, etc., so I am not surprised I have a big reading list.
5. EDIT***I follow blogs I want to follow. If after continued comments, no one responds, I may continue to read, but not bother commenting anymore.
Reading BlogsUm yeah, I would have to win the lottery to be able to sit on my behind and read every blog I follow. I do not even know the number and really do not want to. So here is how I read…
1. If you comment on my blog…you are first on the list of who I visit.
2. When I finish visiting the commenters on my blog then I hit my folder of must read blogs – ones with great writing, great ideas and inspiration {they do not all get comments…lots of crickets chirping}.
3. Then I hit the reader.

***EDIT***NOTE***3/25/2010Yet another edit…I realized this sounds like I am calling out big blogs, but I have also gotten a lot of crickets from small and medium blogs too. Also, I will comment 1-2 {sometimes more depending on the blog} just in case…I know I miss a comment here and there but when you miss 2,3, and 4 times…that is just ignoring.

Edit 3/23/10
Katie of Katie’s Nesting Spot brought up a very good point that I did not touch on here – so I am adding it…In her own words…”If your craft or idea is inspired by someone else you should say so, and leave their name, not “here” and link. I also think if you take someone’s photos for a feature you should always drop them a line, telling them so.”

Building trust and a community, to me, are essential components of blogging. It is only fair to link and credit the source of the inspiration or photo.I am pretty sure I have done this continually…giving someone else the credit they deserve is no skin off my back and helps us all. And I know I need to start watermarking my photos!

EDIT….3/22/10!!!It was way to late when I finished and I knew I forgot some things. I must give a shout out to Lee…she is the Queen and taught  me a lot and was the first big blogger to follow me back and continue to visit.

ALSO, Matty {yeah, he rocks} left a comment that summed up a lot of what I wish I had said. “…When I didn’t have as many followers as I do now, and wasn’t following as many blogs as I do now, I was able to read and comment on every single post of every blog I followed. Every single one. And I religiously replied to every single comment I got on my own posts.

It has now reached a point where with work, life and family responsibilities, and the ever growing number of blogs, that I had to make a decision….for my time and my sanity. I now no longer have the time to read and comment on every single post. I just get to as many as I can, starting with my favorites and the people who visit me. And with a few exceptions, I have stopped replying to comments just to save time. Instead, I make it a point to read and comment on their blog.

The days of double dipping…..commenting on their blog AND replying to their comments on mine are just too time consuming anymore.”
I enjoy blogging {maybe too much}. I try to treat other bloggers, whether they have 5 followers of 1500 followers, with respect. I do get behind in my commenting and posting, but try to make up for it…
I am only one woman with two wild kiddos!

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{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Debbie Smith March 26, 2010 at 11:48 am

Cheri loved this great advice from Holly. YOu cheri are one of the best out there as far as blogging etiquette goes thank you for that!!!!
Hope you have a lovely weekend!!

2 Heather March 26, 2010 at 11:58 am

Hi Cheri! Your blog is great! I really liked Holly’s post on blogging etiquette too! I added you to my blog scroll and grabbed your button too! Looking forward to coming back! Happy FF. 😉

3 Theresa Roach March 26, 2010 at 12:09 pm

Hi Cheri, I wanted to stop by and thank you for the sweet comment you left on my blog this morning concerning my Husband’s accident! My daughter, Tracy, thinks the world of you and I can certainly see why! I appreciate the kinds words and continued prayers for us, but mostly for the parents and family of the teens killed in the accident. Thanks again and have a blessed day!

4 Krista@TheGatheringPlaceDesign March 26, 2010 at 12:19 pm

Great advise! Cheri is the best. I am fairly new to blogland and she quickly welcomed me and even featured some of my stuff! Thanks for the reminder to be a better blogger.:)

5 Holly L March 26, 2010 at 12:28 pm

Thanks Cheri…If anyone is interested, the comments that followed that post on my blog were FABULOUS…readers had a lot to share and a lot to say. It was a wonderful discussion.

6 Danielle March 26, 2010 at 12:35 pm

That was great and I am sooo with you, Holly! It’s really not very nice when you take time to read someone’s blog and leave them comments and then they *never* leave a single comment. I don’t think anyone expects everyone to comment on every post…but once in a while is nice 🙂

7 Valerie March 26, 2010 at 12:54 pm

I’m still pretty new to the blog scene so this information was very helpful!

8 marydon March 26, 2010 at 1:41 pm

100% in total agreement.
Happy Easter!
Have a wonderful weekend.
TTFN ~ Hugs, Marydon

9 Kristin March 26, 2010 at 1:43 pm

THanks for posting Cheri! I’m heading over to Holly’s, and you Cheri are one of the nicest bloggers out there! THANK YOU!

10 Melissa Howard March 26, 2010 at 1:53 pm

Good reminders. Thanks for sharing Holly’s post.

11 Stacy@RedDoorHome March 26, 2010 at 2:25 pm

Great info for all bloggers – new and old. I think everyone who has a blog struggles to find a balance between their home world and their blog world. The bigger your folowing becomes the harder it is to keep up with all the little things.

12 Tracy March 26, 2010 at 3:39 pm

Thanks for sharing Holly’s post!

13 Amanda @ House Revivals March 26, 2010 at 3:40 pm

Thanks for the informative post! I have been wondering how to link up an email address. Also, it’s nice to see the blog etiquette discussion taking place. I am new to blogging, and want to “get it right”, so have been constantly revising (in my mind and on my blog) how best to handle things. It feels like we’re still pioneering in the social media. As far as using a picture from another blog — I try to follow our country’s “Fair Use Doctrine”, and link back (in addition to following that particular site’s permission policy, as a courtesy).
And with your busy life (kids, husband, homeschooling, home decor , etc), my goodness, no one expects you to reply to every comment (but thanks)!

14 Melanie @Halls of Fame 5 March 26, 2010 at 4:06 pm

As a newbie I appreciate all of your blog etiquette/do & don’t posts! Oh and I listed you as one of my favorite blogs on my Friday Favorites over on my blog! You are one of the blogs I try to read everyday. Thanks!!

15 TammyM March 26, 2010 at 5:53 pm

Thank you for posting this. I have been feeling like I really “needed” to be reading each and every blog and felt guilty when I haven’t so “thank you” for giving me permission to not feel guilty.

16 Dollie March 28, 2010 at 11:27 pm

Thank you so very much for this information. I’m fairly new to actually blogging myself. I follow tons of blogs (although I’m not the best at commenting on them), but my little blog is new and mainly I do it for myself. But I did want to thank you for this great information. I think it will make be a much better blog reader!

17 Heather Topich March 30, 2010 at 1:10 pm

Thanks for posting this, Cheri! I just found your site from , and I look forward to reading more of your posts.

So many people will benefit from the acts of kindness you talked about here(isn’t that what blog commenting is all about?)!

18 Heidi Zeigler March 30, 2010 at 9:43 pm

I love this article! I know exactly how it feels to visit many blogs, contribute and then have nobody reciprocate. I am trying to grow my blog and would love any tips that you would like to share. I found your blog through someone elses blog. I love the name of it. Please check out my blog. Merci-Heidi

19 Beverly @ The Buzz April 4, 2010 at 5:03 pm

Excellent information. Thanks for taking the time to do this. I featured it on my Saturday Shout Outs yesterday.

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