If you need to get caught up you can read part 1 and part 2.

Continued from:
The night before my scheduled DNC, my girlfriend-the nurse called. She
didn’t want to tell me what to do but wanted to let me know from a medical
standpoint and from a friends viewpoint what was going on. She had been
struggling with whether she should call all week, and I had been
struggling with calling her and bothering her. It was the call I needed.
I was fragile and very confused, at this point. All I could think was
“how could I take my babies life, if it only had a 1% chance of making it,
I had to give it a fighting chance”.

As I talked with my girlfriend, I was able to get some of my questions answered. She had worked in an OB/GYN office while going through nursing school. She asked if she could call one of the nurses from that office and have her call me since she was more up to date (my friend was a surgical nurse at the time.) on all of that info. God had placed my friend, Tammy in my life for several specific reasons and this was just one of them. I will be forever grateful.

The phone rang and it was Paula, the nurse. She was wonderful, compassionate, and answered every single question I had. We were on the phone for about an hour and a half. What a precious blessing that lady was.

I got off the phone and went over all the information with my husband. For the first time we were able to make some decision and talk about options, based on concrete medical advice. It was late, so we headed to bed.

The next morning we got up. This was the day I was to go in for the DNC. We talked a little more and called my doctor’s office to talk with the Dr, who I was told, was not available. I explained that I was cancelling the DNC.

The next call I made, was to Paula. I asked her if we could set up an appointment for a second opinion. I knew the chances of getting in might be weeks away, but I figured time was on my side. If we lost the baby I could call back to see what I needed to do and if not I would go at the first available appointment. Paula told me she had already taken the liberty of speaking with one of their doctors and he told her if I would like to come in, THAT DAY, he had a few hours and he would block off time for us. When does that happen?

As soon as I hung up the phone our phone was ringing, it was the first Drs office and the Dr was instantly available to tell me “You were never pregnant. There is no reason for a 2nd opinion. You need this DNC. It is ridiculous to cancel this appointment”.

Until next time….

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